Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Just Fine: My Personal Anthem

Asheville has been in a gasoline crisis since Sunday night - 3 days ago. The pumps that have gas available are few and far between. No one knows when any gas station is going to have gas, and the stations sell out within 30 minutes of getting the fuel. You can tell a station has gas by the line of 50 cars that are stalking it. It seems we are at the end of the line of a pipeline that was affected by Hurricane Ike. So there is gas elsewhere in the state, just not within 50 miles of Asheville. When I realized there was a serious shortage I saw that I had over 3/4 of a tank, plenty to allow me to do my normal driving and drive to Hickory and back for work (160 miles R/T) on Thursday. After my shift I could always fuel up at any point on my way back home. So I wasn't worried. But still I felt uncomfortable. I realized that when I thought about my dependence on oil I didn't feel good - crisis or no. So for the first time in my life I looked, I really looked at what I could do about it. Not driving my car was an obvious option, but my life is full of things I want to do away from home.

Previously I felt too uncomfortable thinking of riding my bike in town. I don't have a lot of biking experience mainly because I had two terrible bike accidents (in the age before helmets!) as a child that required hospitalizations and there are always plenty of stories of *competent* bikers being hit by cars because drivers are oblivious. After my triathlon, I realized that I was more competent than I gave myself credit and I *decided* to get over my fear of cars. And I looked at my schedule and *decided* that from now on I was going to drive my car *no more* than once a day, and not at all if possible. And for the last two days I have done that!

Yesterday I looked at my schedule: G and I had a play date with a friend and her son and we had tentatively planned to meet at her house, about a 15 mile drive out of town, using the highway. I talked with her and discovered that she had plenty of gas and needed to come into town anyway, so she was happy to bring her child to our house where we had a blast. Then I planned to go to the gym in the afternoon and after that have acupuncture. I realized that I could forfeit my drive to the gym and the workout (really, how crazy is it to drive to a gym to run on a treadmill, when I could just lace up my shoes and run out my front door?!) and ride my bike to my practitioner's home. My dh even needed to pick up a job in that neighborhood so I was able to offer to get it for him. So an hour before my appointment (I had *no* idea how long it would take!) I strapped on my helmet and headed for the monster hill that leads into town. Really, this hill was reason enough not to get on a bike. But I have seen people walking their bikes up it all the time, so I was prepared to do the same. But I got up it easily. Really, I amazed myself. And then the rest of the ride was just lovely - through neighborhoods with beautiful houses and landscapes that I never noticed before as they were always a blur from my windshield. I got to my destination in 25 minutes. I used all the extra time I had before my appointment to call my friend excitedly and say, "You won't believe what I just did!" Really, for me, this ranked up there with completing the triathlon.

This morning I biked to meet a friend downtown (15 minutes! I can't even drive, park in a lot, and then leave my car and walk to a restaurant in that little time!) for lunch and for the first time ever I didn't have to worry about finding parking (sometimes difficult) or paying for it (sometimes costly). All around us in the restaurant people were talking about the gas crisis, and even my friend had a harrowing story of being with her children and running out of gas at 10 pm on Sunday night. It is easy to feel anxious around all those stories. I acknowledge that and then I look for thoughts that feel better. I can't do anything about the gas crisis, but I can decide that I will use it as an opportunity to expand my thinking, to see that I am still free to *choose* thoughts that feel better. By doing that I found that I could do something that brought me more benefits than I could have ever imagined. I got out on my bike in beautiful weather, I felt the sun and cool wind on my skin, I smelled the fresh air, I saw beautiful things, I marveled at how strong my body is, and yes, I even solved the gas crisis.

At one point, when I was riding my bike up that monster hill (and there's no getting out of my side of town without it) I realized that I had a song going through my head: Just Fine by Mary J Blige. Since I first heard it, I have considered it my personal anthem and here are a few of the lines from it:

Having a real good time, I'm not complaining
And I'ma still wear a smile if it's raining
I gotta enjoy myself regardless
I appreciate life, I'm so glad that it's mine.


Thanks, Mary J, for putting into a rockin' song what I so firmly believe: well-being is available to me, to everyone, no matter what the conditions. And no one, no gas crisis, no looming recession, can ever take that away.


m said...

oh wow ! I'm so thrilled to read about you getting on your bike. I'm lucky to live in a place with great public transport.



Dear friend;
I always thought that you have " una cabeza bien amueblada" like my dear brother Gustavo used to say, and sharing that gas-crisis-experience of yours with us makes me reaffirm more that I am right about you.
For you people,who live in your country, that "THE SISTEM" has created an enormous dependence of cars,(so of gas),and you always took for granted,this situation creates a collective uneasiness. And you decided take advantage of that scaring situation for everyone else and turned it out as a chance to "discover" that we have the power.Blaming politics,Irak´s war, and wall street sharks does not fix anithing.
Breaking that dependence makes you more FREE from the "BIG PUPPETIER"
and shows yourself that your life and your happiness is in your hands, if you really want of course!!
Thank you for your thoughts my dear friend.
Big hug.